Spend time making notes in the note boxes of your matches. Click on their username to find the place to add notes. Include name of common ancestor or grandparents. Include the amount of dna you share by clicking on the little i above the note box and copy and paste the info into the note. Include your identified relationship and see how it compares to estimate charts. Send them a message and introduce yourself. This is family!
|Add note icon to left, click on "I" for shared DNA|
Make notes of discrepancies. Over average, under average?
Thank you Blaine T. Bettinger for making this chart of averages and ranges
Send off a message and ask them if they have a Gedmatch #. When they send you their kit #, add it to the note box and to a list you make on a word doc or spreadsheet with their username, common ancestor (CA) and Gedmatch #, and your relationship. These people are part of your own flesh and blood. Part of them is in your every cell.
Using your Gedmatch number and theirs do a one-to-one compare on Gedmatch. Copy and paste comparison in a sticky note.
Send a reply message and tell them you want to send them an email so you can send them the info. When they send you their email add it to your data collection then copy and paste the information from the sticky note and send it to them. By following these steps you set up more personal communication for information exchanges.
If they respond they don't have Gedmatch# and ask what Gedmatch is, tell them it's a free site where they can make more matches from other companies. Suggest they watch Gedmatch Basics on Youtube to learn how to upload. Tell them you would like to see exactly how you match. When they write you back with their Gedmatch # ask for their email so you can send them the results of the comparison. Add their email and kit 3 to your spreadsheet.
The point is to build a relationship and information exchange. These are your cousins, add some personal information to your communications. Become friends. Ask if the are on Facebook.
(My 1c1x, half my age, found a friend who appears to be related to one of my surname lines all because of Brad Pitt. --A future post.-- We haven't proven it yet via DNA, but my cousin's friend is now a FB friend.)
Create lists in your email of choice. Make cousin lists sorted by common ancestor surnames. Let them know when you find a new cousin. Not all will match by DNA. You have a genetic tree and a paper trail tree; all are family.
Next, spend some time checking the shared matches of everyone you have made notes for. Check the notes you have made for those in the shared match list to see if everyone connects to the same CA or couple. This will give you an to opportunity to write those without trees and let them know who it appears MIGHT be a common ancestor or set of grandparents. Again, ask them to upload to Gedmatch to see if you can confirm. Ask for an invite to see their tree if it's private. Run their kit # against yours and a known cousin match. See if you all match on the same chromosome. You might not. They may share DNA in a different spot. Tell them the results. Make a note in your spreadsheet or list on your Word document.
Look at shared surnames and see if they have the name you have identified for your shared match. Maybe they have the surname, but the person is a sibling of your match. Maybe they have a grandparent listed you haven't discovered. They might take you further up your tree. See it you can figure it out; if you can, send them a message. If you can’t, ask them for their Gedmatch #. Repeat scenarios above as needed.
Once you start doing triangulations you can check your collected kit # 's and emails against your segment and triangulation sheets.
Genealogy is meeting new cousins and collaborating. It's about helping each other, because--- when you help them--- karma happens.